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6 ways to cope with a bad day

 

Bad day

There would be no dull, if there was no bright, there would be no wrong if there was no right. There would be no happy if there was no sad, and how can you expect good if there is no bad. The principles governing our cosmos make it impossible for us to avoid the dull, wrong, sad and bad part of it. As much as you might try to avoid these, they somehow creep into your lives, and when they do, you don’t know how to handle them.

No matter how strong you build your walls, nature has its ways of getting through. We cant avoid it, can only adapt.

You are so busy trying to avoid discomforts that you forget that you can actually learn how to live with them. So when you think you are completely secure, the perfect storm awaits to get you out of your comforts.Discomforts are unavoidable(they will find a way into your well guarded lives), rather than planning on how to avoid them, you are better off learning how to live through them with minimal damage.

All you have to do is to keep your head above the water

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It is impossible to live a life without a single bad day. If you don’t know how to swim you will fall into the water one day or the other. I know you all strive for that perfect problemless life, but you should be well aware now that perfection is beyond the realms of possibility. You can have a period of magical days, weeks, months, but then creeps in that one dark day. The day that you so wish to avoid. The day which not only spoils the present but is also capable of denting the future. Although you might feel bullet proof, but when misery hits you, it would be more like a bombardment than a bullet.

Here are a few ways which might help you keep your head above the water and come unscathed from this type of a day:

1. Don’t run for the Woods, be a Tiger– When calamity strikes, the easiest option is to run. But no matter how fast and furious you are at running, calamity will overtake you soon. Its effect will be magnified because of the time you wasted running. Don’t try to ignore the bad day, accept it and face the pain the same way you enjoy the pleasures.

2. Curb the emotional splurge urge– Venting out your emotions not only adds to your miseries but conducts the negativity to others. This adds to the overall gloom. Try not to sensationalize your misery, it will only get you sympathy and an excuse to stay miserable.

3. The magic of altering your perspective- Stuck in a single plain of thought prevents your from seeing through the temporary obstacle in front of you. If you are willing to be a little flexible, you will be able to realign your perspective, and the problem would no longer remain the problem. We see bad because we prevent ourselves, even temporarily, from seeing the good. On a bad day, this gains special importance. When the cosmos seems to conspire against you, it is magical to see the world without keeping yourself at the center of it.

4. Ice bucket challenge– When you seem to be having a bad day, a sudden shock becomes the need of the hour. This will both divert attention from your issues and lead you to see the world in a better way. Sudden shocks include consciously doing anything outside your comfort zone, these can range from an ice bucket challenge to anything adventurous.

5. If you surround yourself with pokeyoupines, you will be poked sooner than later– You have to chose who you share your circle of influence with. These people are the ones who are the first to know about your day, without you telling. Their response to your situation adds to your misery or clears it altogether. We are better off surrounding ourselves with a few clowns who turn your frowns upside down than many friends who just notice and at max empathize.

6. It may be possible to beat down the body, but its impossible to beat down a free spirit– Yes we all have bad days, but how we respond to these define our lives. Its not worth surrendering years of hard work to one bad day.We can either choose to succumb to the worldly randomness working against us, or we can take our blows gracefully and wait for a better day. If you are ready to wait for your turn, it is a fact that good days outnumber the bad ones heavily. It is for you to decide if you want to let go of all the good days just because of that one bad one.

Sometimes all you need to do is cling on

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Don’t bash yourself too much over the sudden turn of fate, just clinging on till the storm ends.

Even superman has days when his suit doesn’t come out from laundry. He doesn’t wait for it to dry, he improvises. Rather than losing yourself to the negativity of a bad day, you can improvise.  Fooling your own mind to look beyond the obvious problems.

It is inevitable to avoid bad days. I found that out when months of hard work at the gym was flushed out due to one bad Ayurvedic supplement. My folly was that I wanted to replace the chemical with the natural. Not everything goes according to plan, but we either waste time whining or survive to fight another day. I hope you choose the latter because I did. Hope you have a good day, and even if you aren’t, its ok, adapt to the bad one.

 

 

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Words – If you utter rubbish you become utter rubbish

Words have the power both to bake and burn

They say actions speak louder than words, but then they have to say it in words. Words are the most exchanged commodities in this world. Words are priceless. Words make the world work. Yet, after millions of years of communicating, some of you still struggle to put them to good use.

The words you utter can be like water, they can be molded as per where you are speaking, they can be like the wind, can offer respite like a gentle breeze or distress like a turbulent gale, they can be like the earth, integral to all human activity, and like the fire, which can help you bake your cakes if used wisely or burn them if ignored.

Utter Rubbish- How you waste words

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If you utter rubbish you become utter rubbish. If you constantly speak and listen to rubbish, that’s how you become. Disregarding this gift that we have been bestowed with, can be detrimental for our personalities. If we don’t focus on utilizing it properly then sooner rather than later the words we use wont matter at all.  The ones indulging in one of the following habits need to be more mindful in while dispensing words:

1. Complaining– Yes you have freedom of speech, but if you are enslaved by your miseries then you you don’t deserve to express yourself. Harsh? It is impossible to have a life without obstacles, that’s the beauty of it. There would be no good if there was no bad. But at most times you magnify your woes by complaining,relentlessly. Not only adding to your own misery but adding sorrow to someone else’s life too.

2. Gossiping– Just because you can speak, doesn’t always imply that you have to. Gossiping, once considered an old age disorder, is something that everyone does. Talking about someone behind their back has that guilty pleasure about it which is very exciting. But people speaking behind someone else’s back to you, would be speaking behind your back too. Yes we have too little time to discuss anything worthwhile, but endless hours to gossip. Once the truth is out, gossip mongers run out of business, and are ignored by the community. Running out of words all together.

3. Seeing the tinge of dust on the plate of Gold you find– Some people are gifted by the power of noticing the blotch in beauty. You can put the purest form of beauty in front of them, yet their words would only find the minutest anomaly in it. When you only use words to find out the worst in whatever you notice, you are being ungrateful for the beautiful gift of expression. See the best and say the best. There is a little magic in everything.

4. Excuses– The ones who do nothing, give excuses. The ones who excel in the art of the blame game seldom take responsibility for anything. It is always someone else’s fault, some external factor, some wicked twist of fate, that prevents them from fulfilling their potentials. Sadly excuses come with an expiry date, soon enough your irresponsibility shines through, and your words become dust.

5. Lying– Words wasted in lies, might solve short term struggles, but more often than not lead to further troubles. The false call for wolf is a classic example. Don’t waste words lying, soon people would stop believing you, even when you say the truth. Seldom would you find yourself in situations worse than when your words have no say.

How to make words worthwhile 

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I believe that our ephemeral lives grant us a limited numbers of words for each life time. You can either abuse them, through the ways mentioned above, or make them and yourselves worthwhile, for the little time that you spend on this planet.

Words can help us contribute to a situation, while you usually waste them taking away from it. Here are a few ways to add to magnificence of the reality that you dwell in:

1. Appreciate– No hesitation in appreciation. Don’t refrain from noticing the best in people. places and things. Once noticed, don’t hesitate in sounding it out. The art of complimenting has been limited to the insignificant social media likes. Insignificant because, a girl wanting to be someone else gets more like than someone displaying pure art.

2. Share Wisdom– Wisdom is worth nothing if it is kept to oneself. Knowledge needs to be shared. Words expended in sharing wisdom not only assist evolution, but also save you from indulging in the above mentioned utter rubbish.

3. Be Honest– Yes, the world needs to be taught honesty. While lying is more rewarding in the short run, but there is nothing more important than stating facts and being honest whenever you open your lips.

4. Inspire– The most beautiful way of using words is by inspiring people. Usually actions inspire more than words. But the people who take actions can reach out to many more, if they use words to supplement their actions. People fulfill their desires and ambitions and think they have reached the pinnacle of existence. But you have achieved nothing if you haven’t inspired another person to brighter pastures. Living for oneself is existence, even immovable plants live for others.  Do they live worthier lives than uninspiring humans?

5. Entertain– Well putting a smile on someones face is a major task, knowing the amount of stress everyone is in these days. Words, aiming at pure entertainment and fun, without any intended malice, are the need of the hour. Happiness spreads in a progression, words give you a chance to be at the start of one such movement. The power of words cants be over emphasized.

6. Silence– At times it is worthwhile to savor reality in stillness, without expending words. Silence scores over wasting words in utter(ing) rubbish.

Somebody cares- The wonder of words

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Although I have spent around 1000 words in expressing the importance of speaking mindfully, but each one of them is worth the effort. Maybe someone somewhere needs that one sentence to get influenced for the better. My inspirational aspirations have compelled me to value words and saved me from indulging in utter(ing) rubbish.

If you want to be heard, you might want to improve what you say. Not just when everyone is listening, but when some are not. I hope the ones who managed to reach this part depart with a smile on their faces. And that is the wonder of words.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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