You are belittled by your fears, otherwise you were born to rule land and sea, tame monsters and beasts, stand eye to eye with the eye of the storm, encourage what is right and condemn whats wrong.

But you lie there paralyzed in fear, trembling at the very thought of discomfort, choosing mediocrity over greatness. Blinded by fear, devoid of logic, you fail to understand that this fear doesn’t lie outside, it lies within.

It diminishes the luminescence of your soul. It impairs your ability to say whats right and speak up against whats wrong. Fear prevents you from appreciating the worthy and rebuking the unworthy. It makes you prefer silence over words, solitude over love, stagnancy over discovery, your smart phone over a real conversation, ignorance over greetings.

Fear cripples your individuality, turning you into a generic mortal, where you do what everybody else does and say what everybody wants to hear. Fear of opinions molds you into a people pleaser, and before you realize, all your actions are directed towards justifying yourself in someone else’s eyes.

Frozen in fear, no smiles no tears, how will life be worthwhile, if you only expect a path, too clear.

Fear simplifies your life in a certain way too. It convinces you that you are a no good loser. As a result you stop working on your talents, depriving yourself from the greatness which you were meant to achieve. Living with fear is as good as not living at all. The days fly by with you sitting and counting the obstacles you dodged, the embarrassments you avoided and the chances you didn’t take instead of the discoveries you made, hearts you won and the challenges you overcome. Here our some basic was to repel fear or get used to it:

1. Never respect it too much– Fear has the tendency of growing on you exponentially, if you give it even little importance.

2. Drown it in a bowl of confidence– Confidence is built during peace so that it can be used to destroy fear at the time of war.

3. Don’t surround yourself with wimpish weaklings– These perpetually shivering creatures are even afraid of their own shadows. They will make you see the ghost in nothingness and hear shrills in absolute silence. These people cant do something themselves so they tell you that you cant do it too.

4. Constantly nourish your instincts– Life wont get simpler you have to make yourself smarter. Your instincts help you repel fear naturally. Although fear is one of the earliest acquired habit, your instincts can be be nourished to overcome it and even repel it in the future.  This can be achieved by getting to know yourself better through meditation and simulating and acclimatizing to thrills through adventurous indulgences.

5. You cant run from something within you– Your fear lies within you, it might get activated by extrinsic elements but fear is a part of your response to these triggers. Hence, it is meaningless to run from something you perpetually carry on your back, cliched as it might sound but you are better off facing your fears.

6. If you cant kill it, learn to live with it– Fear like any emotion contains energy, if you can align with this nervous energy, you can actually use it to your advantage. Learning to live with fear involves watching fear rise and fall, noticing the heart beat fast before slowing down, getting lost for breathe and being patient till it gets normal  and then carrying on with your task.

Fear sabotages your dreams and cripples your quest of blossoming into the best form of yourself. Fear might also hinder your everyday working. Therefore it is essential to start controlling fear before it takes control of you.

The devil inside doesn’t need much of an invitation to reveal its true colors. Anger is a manifestation of this devil which exhibits its soul impairing traits in the following forms:

1. Silent withdrawal– When you build a self imposed prison around yourself and withdraw from the outside world. This kind of a response is fueled by an inferiority complex. You choose to withdraw yourself form the world and live in displeasure.

2. Passive Denial– You become so used to the feeling of being angry that you make yourselves immune to it. You mask your true self  with a layer of fake normality. You don’t realize that by suffering like this, you not only embrace depression but also make yourself sit on a timebomb of physical ailments.

3. Fake Escapes– When you are angry you seek solace in a number of inappropriate activities, justifying yourself, saying the world is unfair. These fake escapes are momentary cures to long-lived issues.

4. Vehement argumentation– You speak so much but end up saying nothing, they hear so much but end up understanding nothing. This is what happens when two angry people communicate. Even if you try your best, shout the loudest, punch the hardest of walls you wont be able to make sense to an angry person.

Anger, just like love, is contagious

Anger has the power of molding identities and dictating behavior. When you express anger, you not only make yourself more miserable but also pass on this anger to others. Anger, being the contagious disease that it is, spreads from person to person. Even if you might be in silent withdrawal your state of haphazardness is conveyed all around you. The subliminal transference of anger grips everyone around you  and slowly grows on them. Everyone has their own way of responding to this anger and suddenly you might see the place around you turn pretty hostile without realizing you were the source of it all.

Therefore, it becomes a social responsibility to cope with anger in the best possible way. Otherwise you might initiate a brawl or spark a fight without realizing. Here are some ways you can cope with anger:

1. Don’t let it happen– The ones who wins the battle against his own mind, holds the potential to conquer the entire universe. By controlling your own thoughts you have the power to choose what provokes you. By minimizing what provokes you, you reduce the chances of being angry. Preventing anger saves you the time and energy to look for ways to cure it and cure the damage it inflicts on the world and the ones close to you.

2. Choose your response– At times its impossible not to feel angry, your reaction might appear spontaneous but you always have the control over it. You need to consciously choose your reaction in the few milliseconds between the provocation and your response. How you deal with the few milliseconds goes a long way in shaping your personality. You can either wreck havoc in the outside world or within your own self, or you can choose to respond in an optimal way.

3. Be battleready, prepare yourself in advance– The sailors who waste their time when the ship is cruising in good waters are the ones who drown when a storm comes their way. It is essential to be prepared for the absurdities of the universe. Although you cant predict all of them but you can make yourself strong enough to respond optimally to whatever comes your way. Meditate on how your brain responds to different situations, practice mindfulness,observe your shortcomings and improve when you have time. Don’t let yourself be under-prepared when you come across an enemy, as during the battle of your life avoiding enemies is inevitable, anger is such an enemy you should be prepared for.

4. Accept that we all wear different hats–  At times even your family or your best friends might anger you. Even the most coherent of minds can have differences. Variation is what makes us all unique, it is an unavoidable aspect of our race. No two people can ever be exactly alike, even twins. Hence you should learn to accept that expecting people to think just like you, even the ones closest to you, is a waste of time. Once you understand that everyone wears different thinking hats, you will go a long way in avoiding conflicts, and nurturing patience so as to understand the difference of opinion, which breeds anger.

5. Redirect the Rage- Carrying anger cripples thought and is detrimental for physical health too. Venting out anger on others isn’t ideal as well. So if you ever happen to have anger issues, redirect it towards the direction of least damage. You can go for a run, hit the gym, dance, or sooth your soul with some music. These would not only improve your immediate state of being but also be beneficial to your health in the long term.

6. Plant thought anchors around yourself–  It is essential to have thought anchors, people or things. around you to remind you when you are acting abnormally. These remind you when you are deflecting from normality and keep you in check. They can range from a piece of rock to your closest friend or relative. Sometime all you need to dilute anchor is to be reminded about your normal state of being. Anchors remind you of your happy state of mind, where you are peaceful and full of gratitude. Deflecting from normal thoughts is common but you should utilize everything to get back into cruise control.

Drop the Pressure

When you lose control you lose much more. Every angry moment is a happy moment lost. In our short lives, time is of the essence, we can either spend it smiling and putting smile on other’s faces or waste it by getting angry and finding remedies.

Anger is the consequence of losing touch with the bigger picture of life. What appears great now would lose its importance in a few days, why tax your brain and burden your body getting angry about it. You are disrespecting the gift of existence by being angry. You should be grateful for the little time you have on this planet and look at adding to the abundance  of awesomeness at your disposal than to make yourself and the people around you angry.

There is nothing great about being angry. Even if you are getting all of the wealth, respect and power in the world for it, you shouldn’t waste your precious time being angry. So drop the pressure and share a smile, you might just succeed in making a mundane moment significant.

Have a great Day.

The life in your years is more important than the years in your life. Yet you ignore the magic of the moment and choose a longer life full of strife.

As strange as it may sound but these days the easiest thing to ignore is your own self. In your quest for financial freedom, you either over-burden yourselves with responsibilities to make the most of each second or simply overlook the significance of staying healthy. By the time you accumulate enough wealth to be free, you are hardly able to enjoy it because of one of these three conditions:

1. Mental burn outs– Years of work stress cripples are minds, making you believe that fun is for lazy and unsuccessful people. As a result you become over critical of others having fun and set crazy expectations from yourself and your near and dear ones. You devoid yourself from indulging in any sort of fun activity which further damages your life. This mental burn out has physical consequences which involve stress related diseases like diabetes, cancers, high blood pressure.

2. Physical burn outs– The years that you spend accumulating a mountain of resources, which you don’t really need, are the same time you spend overlooking the well being of your body. By trying to economically maximize each moment you overlook what is really important. Sleep deprivation, irregular eating patterns, lack of physical activity damage your body to a degree beyond repair. By the time you realize your follies, it is too late to physically lead a normal life.

3. External anchors– Taking excessive stress allows you reward yourself with indulgences paving the way for external anchorage. You get hooked to smoking, alcohol, panic eating just to pat yourself after putting in those long work hours. These anchors start controlling you after a while and you yourself accept them as a necessity soon enough. You spend a lot of time and energy detaching yourself from these anchors which again takes away time from your daily routine.

Devote yourselves fully, but mindfully 

For any kind of positive outcome it is mandatory that one must focus completely. You will only taste success if you are fully devoted to your tasks,but this does not imply that you should do it at the price of your physical and mental health.

Your willingness to achieve your dreams often overpowers all your psychological and physiological needs.This generally leads to an imbalanced lifestyle. A situation similar to when you put it all on the line to plant and nurture a fruit bearing tree, but when you are rewarded you are not able to fully savor the fruits.

Most of you don’t even do it for yourself. You forego your own lives, nurturing someone else’s fruit bearing plant. You will not even get to see the actual fruits of your labor, yet you sacrifice your health and time for a monthly pat on your back.

If you really want to enjoy a better future, you should start with planting your own fruit bearing plants first. Then, do it in a way that you get to savor the fruits of your hard work in the best mental and physical state  If you devote yourself fully you might be successful but wont get a chance to enjoy your success. If you do it mindfully you will certainly be successful and also be able to enjoy the fruits of your labor. Here are 6 ways to be more mindful while pursuing your ambitions:

1. Don’t chase cars like wild dogs– Success comes out of habit. Random action seldom leads to sustained success. If you jump from task to task, even if you expend all our time and energy we would never be truly successful. What you need is to chase one particular task and make it a part of your habit.  When you are mindful about your health and nutrition you become automatic creatures of habit. All you have to do then is to copy this habit framework onto the domain of your choice.

Working like a maniac may get you temporary success but incorporating a balanced lifestyle will help you sustain it.

2. The most valuable currency is time– How you spend your time dictates the quality of your life. Some choose to merely exist mechanically while others seem to maximize every moment. Time has the unique ability of deceiving you. If you let things slide, you will find yourself 10 years older without living most of it. You will become a snow ball of complaints, rolling down the slope of life. Failing to optimally utilize time till there is no time left.

If utilized mindfully, time serves you and the life in your years hold more value than the years in your life.

3. Preventive action is better than responsive reaction– You never see immediate consequences for over exertion or inaction towards a balanced lifestyle. This makes you believe that you can abuse your body for extended hours or ignore exercise and proper nutrition. But all of these factors accumulate, till a point when the ticking time bomb explodes, and you are left wondering, and cursing fate. Minor preventive measures will help you avoid major responsive reactions.

If you are mindful you will not only remain healthy for a longer time but also save yourself a lot of time and money wasted on responsive remedies like surgeries and operations.

4. Don’t follow greed’s lead– The money stacked up in your bank accounts once you pass away is the money you never needed. Your kids, if raised properly will mange to fend for themselves. Your insecurities and greed never allow you to take it easy. You want to stack all of the worlds wealth while ignoring your own health. Greed usually arises from social pressures and competitions. You need to understand the exclusivity of your own life. If you depend on others to dictate your aspirations, you will get stuck in a whirlpool of greed.

Reconsider your motive of work, if it is greed based, go spend some time alone in the hills.

5. Indulge in regular introspection– Assessing your ambitions regularly and aligning them with the bigger picture of life is utterly essential. This gives you a realistic idea of your journey so far and the path you want to tread ahead. It also assists in giving you a reality check, to find out what is actually important. If done consciously, you would be able to avoid that sudden unexpected jolt, which will lead to unwanted responsive actions. Rather than being forced to follow a particular strict diet and medical schedule you can ease your burdens by evaluating your mental and even physical condition regularly.

The earlier on you diagnose a problem, the easier and cheaper its treatment becomes.

6. Remind others on what is actually important so that you are auto reminded yourself– The best way to be mindful is to tell others to be mindful. Convincing another person to be mindful fuels your own thoughts in that direction. Moreover, even if you manage to make a minor change in someone else’s life now, that person will reap its true benefits in the long run.

When you become the guiding light in someones else’s life, you become more responsible automatically, knowing that there are others depending on your word.

Have a Good day!!!

Yes we all shine. We are no less than shooting stars.Even the dumbest ones are born with some spark. You might illuminate your own world, if not anyone else’s. You go through days where everything seems magical and you inspire awe. But you cant sustaing this feeling for too long. Soon, your talents burn out. You go back to being your average or even below average selves.

You may take up that new fitness or language course or maybe a new project and make it a part of your lives for a week, a month, an year. But then what happens? Where does the passion go?

Similarly with relationships. You assume a wonderstruck disposition for the initial bit but then it gets a little hectic, doesn’t it?

At work, you might work like a maniac and the sailing would be smoother than an ice cube  for the first few months, till the time you realize that someone else’s plate is more full than yours. The same keyboard which appeared like a piano where you used to create audible magic would appear to be littered with thorns. The reasons for your burns outs are aplenty and you seem to discover them after the initial sparkle.

Same goes with colleges, diet plans and pets. Once you satisfy the anticipatory excitement, it mostly burns out. But how do we persist with an endeavor or a relationship in an age where the attention span is shorter than Mr Lannister. Here are 4+2 ways of being the incombustible shooting star, which keeps on going and never burns out:

1. Spend more time choosing to prevent excusing– They tell you to dip your toes before diving in. But you still wont discovers the monsters which hide at the river bed. Either accept the flow of the cosmos( which involves making repetitive mistakes without repenting) or choose the tasks or person you want to pursue carefully.

2. Strive for perpetual self improvement– The problem with setting targets for yourself is that either they are too high and you are disheartened seeing the task ahead or they are too easy and you achieve them and get back to your state of relaxation. If you strive for perpetual self improvement the fire to get better will never extinguish and you will keep going.

3. Motivation should mostly be intrinsic– The most dependable supply of motivation lies within. If we seek it outside we are bound to find ourselves left stranded sooner rather than later. We can only be assured of a constant supply of inspiration if we look within. This way we wont need and good luck charm, a fancy muse or a training partner. Extrinsic supplements can be helpful temporarily but bare in mind that they will leave the day you need them the most.

4. Increase your bare-ability for bullshit– The better adapted you are to nuisances the lesser they will affect you. Usually you waste your time justifying yourself to detractors and silencing the critics, this ceases your momentum till you come to a halt. If you increase your threshold for nuisances you will keep going no matter what happens. Improvising and instincts will help you overcome these momentary mishaps.

5. Build a reserve for when you would find yourself running on low fuel– The bad when everything works against you is unavoidable like Candy crush request. It will find its way into your peaceful progress and threaten to dampen your morale. You need to train yourself to cope with this kind of a day in advance, rather than be found dumbstruck when it happens. As opposed to momentary mishaps, this day will bring to you a barrage of bullshit, only the ones who have build a reserve for themselves, through conscious meditation and mindfulness, will manage to cope and move on.

6. Let there be no distractions– Distractions appear in the form and at the time you least expect. The allurement of distractions overpowers all your self control capabilities. They provide momentary joy to take your eye off the bigger picture. The more you try ignore them the more they hinder your thoughts. Don’t be tricked by these devious distractions. Learn to look at them and leave them alone. They might irritate you for a few moments but wont stop you from your pathway to glory.

I heard that a few shooting stars fell on the east American coast while I was writing this piece. Maybe the cosmos wants to serve examples for my articles.

These shooting stars might have lost focus or were distracted from their normal course by some mesmerizing cosmic blast.

Learn from them and don’t burn out Or get distracted. Find your path, prepare your mind and relentlessly pursue your objectives like incombustible shooting stars.

Have a great day!!!!