The devil inside doesn’t need much of an invitation to reveal its true colors. Anger is a manifestation of this devil which exhibits its soul impairing traits in the following forms:

1. Silent withdrawal– When you build a self imposed prison around yourself and withdraw from the outside world. This kind of a response is fueled by an inferiority complex. You choose to withdraw yourself form the world and live in displeasure.

2. Passive Denial– You become so used to the feeling of being angry that you make yourselves immune to it. You mask your true self  with a layer of fake normality. You don’t realize that by suffering like this, you not only embrace depression but also make yourself sit on a timebomb of physical ailments.

3. Fake Escapes– When you are angry you seek solace in a number of inappropriate activities, justifying yourself, saying the world is unfair. These fake escapes are momentary cures to long-lived issues.

4. Vehement argumentation– You speak so much but end up saying nothing, they hear so much but end up understanding nothing. This is what happens when two angry people communicate. Even if you try your best, shout the loudest, punch the hardest of walls you wont be able to make sense to an angry person.

Anger, just like love, is contagious

Anger has the power of molding identities and dictating behavior. When you express anger, you not only make yourself more miserable but also pass on this anger to others. Anger, being the contagious disease that it is, spreads from person to person. Even if you might be in silent withdrawal your state of haphazardness is conveyed all around you. The subliminal transference of anger grips everyone around you  and slowly grows on them. Everyone has their own way of responding to this anger and suddenly you might see the place around you turn pretty hostile without realizing you were the source of it all.

Therefore, it becomes a social responsibility to cope with anger in the best possible way. Otherwise you might initiate a brawl or spark a fight without realizing. Here are some ways you can cope with anger:

1. Don’t let it happen– The ones who wins the battle against his own mind, holds the potential to conquer the entire universe. By controlling your own thoughts you have the power to choose what provokes you. By minimizing what provokes you, you reduce the chances of being angry. Preventing anger saves you the time and energy to look for ways to cure it and cure the damage it inflicts on the world and the ones close to you.

2. Choose your response– At times its impossible not to feel angry, your reaction might appear spontaneous but you always have the control over it. You need to consciously choose your reaction in the few milliseconds between the provocation and your response. How you deal with the few milliseconds goes a long way in shaping your personality. You can either wreck havoc in the outside world or within your own self, or you can choose to respond in an optimal way.

3. Be battleready, prepare yourself in advance– The sailors who waste their time when the ship is cruising in good waters are the ones who drown when a storm comes their way. It is essential to be prepared for the absurdities of the universe. Although you cant predict all of them but you can make yourself strong enough to respond optimally to whatever comes your way. Meditate on how your brain responds to different situations, practice mindfulness,observe your shortcomings and improve when you have time. Don’t let yourself be under-prepared when you come across an enemy, as during the battle of your life avoiding enemies is inevitable, anger is such an enemy you should be prepared for.

4. Accept that we all wear different hats–  At times even your family or your best friends might anger you. Even the most coherent of minds can have differences. Variation is what makes us all unique, it is an unavoidable aspect of our race. No two people can ever be exactly alike, even twins. Hence you should learn to accept that expecting people to think just like you, even the ones closest to you, is a waste of time. Once you understand that everyone wears different thinking hats, you will go a long way in avoiding conflicts, and nurturing patience so as to understand the difference of opinion, which breeds anger.

5. Redirect the Rage- Carrying anger cripples thought and is detrimental for physical health too. Venting out anger on others isn’t ideal as well. So if you ever happen to have anger issues, redirect it towards the direction of least damage. You can go for a run, hit the gym, dance, or sooth your soul with some music. These would not only improve your immediate state of being but also be beneficial to your health in the long term.

6. Plant thought anchors around yourself–  It is essential to have thought anchors, people or things. around you to remind you when you are acting abnormally. These remind you when you are deflecting from normality and keep you in check. They can range from a piece of rock to your closest friend or relative. Sometime all you need to dilute anchor is to be reminded about your normal state of being. Anchors remind you of your happy state of mind, where you are peaceful and full of gratitude. Deflecting from normal thoughts is common but you should utilize everything to get back into cruise control.

Drop the Pressure

When you lose control you lose much more. Every angry moment is a happy moment lost. In our short lives, time is of the essence, we can either spend it smiling and putting smile on other’s faces or waste it by getting angry and finding remedies.

Anger is the consequence of losing touch with the bigger picture of life. What appears great now would lose its importance in a few days, why tax your brain and burden your body getting angry about it. You are disrespecting the gift of existence by being angry. You should be grateful for the little time you have on this planet and look at adding to the abundance  of awesomeness at your disposal than to make yourself and the people around you angry.

There is nothing great about being angry. Even if you are getting all of the wealth, respect and power in the world for it, you shouldn’t waste your precious time being angry. So drop the pressure and share a smile, you might just succeed in making a mundane moment significant.

Have a great Day.